Carslon links Vocations “Crisis” to Contraception

His Excellency Robert Carlson

His Excellency Robert Carlson

The world won’t understand this, but I’ve just upgraded my opinion of Archbishop Robert Carlson, the newly appointed AB of St. Louis, Missouri. With this audio clip (fast-forward to 3:10), I’ve got from fan to uber fan to super duper fan.

I’m on a roll today on the link between good families and vocations–which seems like an obvious link, right?–and will hopefully write a more in-depth article on the connection between fruitful family life, NFP and vocations.

Congratulations, St. Louis! Keep on rockin’ in the free, total, faithful and fruitful world, Archbishop Carlson!

Mother’s Day Deals

FYI, if you’re looking to find out more about natural methods of family planning, or want to help someone else understand NFP or Humanae Vitae, check out this awesome sale at One More Soul, one of the main providers of pro-NFP materials. Sale ends May 10, 2009.

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Mothers’ Day is Today: Gianna Beretta Molla’s day!

Painting by Neilson Carlin at Our Lady of Guadalupe Shrine

Painting by Neilson Carlin at Our Lady of Guadalupe Shrine

St. Gianna Molla, mother and physician, is called “the martyr of maternal love.” If you’re not familiar with St. Gianna’s life, read St. Gianna’s story here or here. Quick facts:

Born: 4 October 1922
Died: 28 April 1962
Canonized: 16 May 2004 by Pope John Paul II
Feast Day: April 28
Patron Saint of: mothers, physicians

Imagine the extraordinary occasion of attending the canonization to sainthood of your own spouse. Many people love and admire their husband or wife dearly, and many even have attained great virtue. Even of the holiest of laypeople, could you imagine attending a Mass declaring the heroic virtue and miraculous intercession of your deceased beloved surrounded by multitudes and lead by the Vicar of Christ?

On May 16, 2004 Pietro Molla, husband of Gianna Beretta Molla, did just that, with his three living children in attendance, including the youngest, Gianna Emmanuella, for whom her mother died.

St. Gianna is the first laywoman and doctor to be canonized, and is truly a saint for modern times. Pope John Paul II said in his homily on the day of her canonization,

Following the example of Christ, who “having loved his own… loved them to the end” (Jn 13: 1), this holy mother of a family remained heroically faithful to the commitment she made on the day of her marriage. The extreme sacrifice she sealed with her life testifies that only those who have the courage to give of themselves totally to God and to others are able to fulfil themselves. Through the example of Gianna Beretta Molla, may our age rediscover the pure, chaste and fruitful beauty of conjugal love, lived as a response to the divine call! “

But before St. Gianna decided God was calling her to the vocation of Holy Matrimony, though, she discerned very carefully, and even considered a consecrated vocation. She meditated, spent time in silent prayer, and patiently waited for the Lord to reveal His will. We should all do the same thing, waiting for the Lord in His own time, never forcing his hand, and obeying with great swiftness and generosity once we do understand His will.

Helen Hull Hitchcock, director of Women for Faith & Family, explains very eloquently St. Gianna’s beautiful balance between her vocational life as wife and mother, and her professional life as physician,

“In canonizing Gianna Beretta Molla this spring (2004), the Church officially recognized the extraordinary sanctity of a woman who chose to live an ordinary life – as a professional and, later, as a wife and mother.  Though she had once considered entering a religious order, instead she practiced medicine (receiving her medical degree in 1949, and her specialty in pediatrics in 1952). She devoted herself to caring for her patients, and her selflessness and dedication as a physician endeared her to the people.  But it was not only her practice of medicine that influenced them. She regarded her profession as a mission through which she could aid and nurture both bodies and souls. The young doctor’s devotion to her Catholic faith was well known in her community, and especially her instruction of young Catholic girls in their faith.”

So today, give thanks for the life and death of St. Gianna Beretta Molla, and pray for the unity of families and the holiness and conversion of physicians, that they may serve unselfishly, choose life and stop prescribing contraception.

Ways to celebrate St. Gianna’s feast day (honestly, it’s tough because it’s also the feast day of two other great saints, St. Peter Chanel & St. Louis Mary de Montfort):

A Woman Challenges God…and Wins

If you’ve not heard Patty Schneier give a talk, or checked out her CD’s, why not drive to Madison for the last of their St. Therese Lectures this year?

Prove It

[Spoiler alert: If you go to this talk, you find out they both win.]

The Green Guide to Family Planning

Love the Earth with your Family PlanningLos Alamos FertilityCare Blog has jumped on the green-marketing train with a great little summary of green reasons for natural methods of family planning. Well done!

NFP Talk Do’s & Dont’s

Have you ever heard someone talking about NFP, doing their very best–bless their hearts–and you just want to cring because they say something like, “Did you know Pastor so-and-so is against contraception? [Yes, he's a Catholic pastor. What do you mean?] Well he’s against NFP [NFP is *not* contraception.] Same difference, right?” [NO. And further, why is a Catholic pastor against NFP? That's a whole separate blog entry.] 

I'll tell you, girl, in appropriate descriptive language
I sometimes give talks about natural methods of family planning, and about the ills and myths of contraception. I’ve learned a few things along the way–what to say, what not to say, nuances that are most effective, etc. Someone I know asked me to write down some tips for others who might find themselves talking about NFP or it’s archnemesis, contraception. So here are my thoughts.

DO:
  · Refer to non-approved methods of family planning as “contraception”—anything, natural or synthetic, that is contra—against—conception, be it the Pill, condoms, herbal abortafacients, abortion, or even NFP used for a selfish or unjust purpose. For a more contemporary usage (and to avoid the baggage that comes with the acronym NFP), you may also refer to “NFP” as “natural methods of family planning.”

· Be sold on the truth, and express these teachings—particularly the Church’s teaching on contraception—with a de facto joy and boldness. This isn’t just a hard thing we’re trying to convince people of, it’s a beautiful freeing gift we’re presenting to them to discover. We should be proud of it in a gentle way.

· Talk about the dual use of NFP:  NFP can be used to achieve OR postpone a pregnancy (notice how postpone implies an openness to life, and gives a less negative connotation to pregnancy.) Be a little bold, and use achieve first. If we start to communicate positively about pregnancy—that fertility is a gift and pregnancy is a good and beautiful thing—it will catch on and change the mentality.

 DON’T:
 · Use imprecise language: Don’t refer to non-approved methods of family planning as: artificial birth control, artificial contraception, chemical birth control, etc. (Why? Because when we use “artificial” or “chemical” people think artificiality is why contraception is considered immoral; when , in fact, that’s not the fundamental reason for the immorality of contraception; exiling procreation from the sexual act is.)

· Be intimidated by the statistics of contraceptive use. Though we are “outnumbered,” people can sense your apprehension. Yes, it’s an unpopular and for many a difficult subject, but people will receive it more readily from someone who’s joyfully confident.

· Use the phrase “Avoid a pregnancy.” While this is the phrase you may find in some Church literature, it has a negative connotation. Use the word “postpone.”

· Emphasize the contraceptive benefits of NFP:  We’re often so aware of the contraceptive mentality of people we work with and speak to, and are used to the rejection of NFP as a valid family planning option that we’re eager to get a foot in the door by saying, “Wait! NFP is just as effective as ______..” This gives people the idea that NFP is a contraception, when it is very different. We should let people know the effectiveness when used to postpone pregnancy, but it shouldn’t be the first thing we say.

Natural Methods of Family Planning–what’s yours?

Children are the Answer: A Call for papers

Child full of hopeFrom the One More Soul Newsletter:

Have you ever lamented the fact that modern society sees contraception as the answer to so many of our current problems? Do you ever wish that someone would stand up and propose REAL solutions to these problems? Well, then, read on.

One More Soul’s director [soon to retire], Steve Koob, has given these issues a lot of thought and would like to propose that children are the answer! He believes that ‘more children (and therefore more souls) are the answer to many (and perhaps most) of our culture’s problems.’ He is thus issuing a blanket invitation for all writers to explain how children are the answer to our culture’s problems. Those who are interested can send their paper to cata@omsoul.com.

All serious (and humorous) papers will be posted at One More Soul’s web site, and will help us define a future “Children are the Answer” Symposium. Authors who respond to this “Call for Papers” may be invited to present (or summarize) their work at the CATA symposium.

Papers shouldb e less than 2500 words, and should include a brief abstract with key words underlined. Multiple submissions are permissible. We hope to hear from you soon!

What an opportunity! This is a beautiful follow up to the Contraception is Not the Answer Conference  in Fall 2006 in Rosemont, Illinois. There are so many directions one could go: children and vocations, children and science, children and the economy, etc. Do you have any ideas?

DVD Review: Plan Your Family Naturally

plan-your-family-naturally DVD coverI have a review copy of a relatively new informational DVD on natural methods of family planning from the Diocese of Rockville Center, NY. So here’s my review.

About the DVD:
Title:
“Plan Your Family…Naturally”
Director/ Producer: John Romanowsky
Sponsored by: Diocese of Rockville, NY in association with Order of Malta
Running Time: 22 minutes

Synopsis: The title is pretty much self explanatory, but what approach does John Romanowsky take to explain natural methods of family planning? Shot in a basic documentary interview format,  Drs. Jennifer and Matthew DeMarco are joined by Chris and Dan Volpe and Damon and Melanie Owens, married couples who share their own experience of discovering, learning, and living NFP. These couples give a heartfelt, real-life witness to its effectiveness, challenges, and many benefits-practical, relational, and spiritual-as they cooperate with God’s natural plan for married sexuality.

Strengths: I agree with the promotional web site’s description. This video is contemporary and engaging. As I lament in another entry on marketing NFP, quality contemporary NFP marketing materials are few and far between, for many reasons (lack of connections, know-how, but usually lack of funds and initiative). While there are a few visual and artistic weaknesses, the production value (including often looked-over hair, lighting, and makeup) is quite good, and much higher than the usual efforts. The couples were well spoken, sincere, joyful and told their stories in an honest an engaging way. The DeMarco’s being the core narrators of the DVD were a real asset, not only for their medical credentials, but their friendly and intelligent presence. Not to be sexist, but I’ve found having a female medical professional who is well spoken is a tremendous asset to marketing NFP. Having an engaging male medical professional is certainly a plus, but having a woman doctor just gives that extra boost of confidence to females, who are oftentimes the one first looking into NFP and/or making the initial decision to take a class. (Having said that, I also think it’s important to market more materials specifically towards men, as they usually have a different visual vocabulary.) The DVD’s “Resources” section was a good idea, and the medical illustrations were top notch–very well done and comprehensive without appearing overly complicated.

Weaknesses: Having the opening shot be an atomic microscopic photo of sperm swimming definitely reiterates the the theme of life, but may be a little bit of a shock to those bringing rhythm-method, 17 sibling stereotype baggage to their first viewing of the DVD. A better opening shot might have been something less biological and something more relational/ emotional. Conversely, the description on web site described NFP in a typical “NFP is as effective as the pill for postponing pregnancy” phraseology without referencing the use of NFP to achieve pregnancy or treat women’s wellness issues. This is one of the major downfalls of current NFP marketing materials, and leads to misunderstanding of NFP from both pro-contraceptive people as well as the Providentialists and Quiverfull camp. While the DVD certainly is very contemporary, it would have been helpful to have a young adult couple share their thoughts, doubts and joys about NFP. It was very good to have older, more established couples share their wisdom and experience, but most of the people going through marriage preparations programs and pre-Cana are young adults. Young adults appreciate the witness of older married couples, but hearing the testimony of other young adult couples makes the reality more concrete and relatable. Along those same lines, more resources, especially Internet resources and web sites could have been added, like “NFP on Facebook” or One More Soul or NFP Blogs (shameless self-plug).  Also, Damon & Melanie Owens are rock stars of the marriage prep and NFP worlds, being a well known Theology of the Body speaker/co-founders of the New Jersey NFP association, and should have gotten some props for what they do, or at the very least a title bar under their initial interview with their titles. Lastly, I wish it was about 15-20 minutes longer, with a little background to NFP for health reasons.

Recommendations: Though this DVD has some weaknesses, it is by far one of the best NFP introductions out there. It should be used in marriage prep programs if there isn’t already a quality introduction talk/ course for NFP. People who should have at least one copy (if not several): Diocesan Evangelization Directors, Family Life Directors & NFP Coordinators, DREs, Adult Faith Formation Coordinators at larger parishes, every parish nurse, all high school youth ministers, and every seminarian, deacon and parish pastor.

Have we got things covered?Have you gotten a chance to view it? What did you think? To order, click link at the top of the page, btw.

CCL looking for new Exec Director

CCL's New Look

CCL's New Look

Just heard that Andrew Alderson, ED for the Couple to Couple League (CCL) resigned effective March 24, 2009 to be with family during a health crisis. While Alderson  will work for CCL as a senior project manager, CCL will be looking for someone to fill this position long term.

CCL is seeking applications for the ED opening. If you know someone who is interested and qualified to fill this position, please have them contact the search team at leadership@ccli.org.